Breakups are never easy, even if it seems like the right thing to do. In fact, we’re often so keen to avoid breaking up that we ignore the warning signs until it’s too late. Whether it’s obvious to everyone around you or you seem like a picture-perfect couple; no-one knows the real story apart from you and your partner.
What’s important, however, is accepting when things aren’t right and figuring out what you want to do about it. Depending on your situation, you may want to consider some temporary time apart, divorce, counseling or simply spending more time together. There’s no one-size-fits-all solution when it comes to relationships but there are common factors that can indicate when things are going wrong.
To get the lowdown on whether your relationship is on the up or hitting the rocks, take a look at these sure-fire signs your relationship isn’t working…
- It’s one-sided
If one partner is making all the effort and the other seems disinterested, it won’t take long for resentment to set in. There can be a variety of reasons why a relationship becomes one-sided and sometimes it’s simply because one person is more invested in it than the other. However, it could be due to simple miscommunication too. If you feel like you’re the one who spends their time arranging things to do and planning events, is it because your partner isn’t bothered or is it because they’re happy to have some downtime at home?
- There’s no trust
Trust is one of the trickiest parts of a relationship, particularly if you’ve been hurt in the past or your current partner has violated your trust in some way. There are some instances in which broken trust becomes a dealbreaker, in which case it might be time to walk away. However, you don’t want to let previous hurt filter into your existing relationship either. If one person is overly distrustful, it’s time to address things and find ways to help them move on. Finding small ways to build trust can help either party to overcome this issue in time and will lead to a happier and healthier relationship in the long-term.
- Things are boring
Let’s be real, long-term relationships can get a little boring from time to time. If you live together, it can be even more difficult to break out of this rut. If you’re too used to each other’s company, your sex life is lacking or there’s simply no spontaneity in the relationship anymore, you need to make a change. Spending more time with friends will ensure you’re not constantly with your partner, which means your value your time together more. In addition to this, spending time together in a different location can help to keep things fresh. Book a romantic weekend away, go on regular date nights or simply ban the TV for a week and find other things to keep you busy.
Fixing your relationship
If things have started to go wrong but you’re still convinced you can make a go of it, there are plenty of ways to fix your relationship. From straight-talking and a commitment to change to counseling and mediation; you’ll find there’s tons of support available to help you and your partner get back on track.