Have you ever been called something so offensive or had someone intentionally try to hurt your feelings? I think we’ve all had at least one experience. Well, I figured instead of letting someone’s negative opinion of me get to me, I’d just express my thoughts and let it go.
I have been called fat in more ways than one my entire life: “fat girl,” “fat ass,” “fat bitch,” “fat ass bitch,” etc… I’ve sort of become immune to it. I’m a plus size woman, I look in the mirror every single day, and I know what I look like. This used to be the worst thing someone could call me, but it has definitely lost its power as I’ve become more confident and comfortable in my own skin.
I was seeing/talking to this guy for about two weeks and I asked him what was his impression of me (bad idea) he said a few good things, then the word “lazy” came flying out of his mouth. I couldn’t believe the he had the nerve to say this to me as he barely knew me. I began to realize that he was very critical of me, I couldn’t make a mistake without little remarks or criticism. Let’s just say that was pretty much the last conversation we had.
I recently got into a slight argument with an ex, (another bad idea), and within that argument came the greatest insult I’ve ever received – selfish. Ha! This person – a colossal male succubus, the person I gave everything I could possibly give, the poster child for selfish just called me selfish! Well, I’ve never! I may have my selfish moments, but he doesn’t get to say that.
What I’ve learned from these insults and others is that people will have their opinion of me, as I have my own opinions about them. I need to stop worrying about what other people think. No matter how inaccurate someone’s opinion of you may be, you can’t always change their mind, but you can change the way you react and you can change the way you allow them to treat you. Think highly of yourself, not too highly, there is a line between confidence and conceit. Know yourself, value yourself, and love yourself! Your opinion of you should carry more weight than anyone else’s.